Shai Lavie, MFT
Shai Lavie, MFT
Embodied Psychotherapy and Transformational Groups
Upcoming Workshops:
Working with Disavowed and Undervalued Parts: An Advanced Hakomi Workshop
May 4-5, 2024
“Disavowed and undervalued parts” are those parts of us that we try to ignore, suppress, or hide from ourselves. These can include:
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Emotions, such as anger or grief
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States of being, such as vulnerability, anxious states, neediness, or depression
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Attitudes and behavior patterns, such as being “lazy,” being overly eager in social situations, not caring, or caring too much
Many clients actually come to therapy with the goal of figuring out how to banish these parts from their lives. They will often say, “I wish this part of me would just go away.”
In this workshop, we will learn how to work skillfully with disavowed and undervalued parts.
This will take us on a group journey of facing this very present phenomenon (in its many forms), learning how to frame it skillfully with clients, working with accompanying shame systems, and providing corrective experiences for clients.
Learning Objectives for this Workshop:
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Conceptualize the disavowal of parts of the self as an organizing system, and learn to more readily identify when this system is operating in a client’s presentation.
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Learn to work with the protector parts that are driving the disavowal system, and to delineate which deeper experiences the protector parts are protecting against. (We will also delineate several categories of deeper experiences that activate the protector parts.)
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Learn how to assess the client’s relationship to the disavowed part on a scale of 1 to 4.
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Learn how to build the therapeutic relationship to adequately engage this material.
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Learn framing skills—how to name the disavowal system in a way that begins to engage the client’s curiosity about the disavowed/undervalued part. Learn to use framing in a way that is sensitive to the level of disavowal (on the 1 to 4 scale) that the client is engaging in.
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Learn how to work more skillfully with clients who have disavowed or undervalued parts of themselves.
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Learn the key techniques of Somatic Embodiment of Disavowed Parts, and Somatic Embodiment of Protector Parts.
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Learn about working with undervalued parts across social location.
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Learn the evolutionary psychology of shame—specifically, the function that shame served for our human ancestors embedded in human communities, and how that impacts us now.
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Learn how to track for shame, both verbally and non-verbally.
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Learn how to integrate shame skills while working with disavowed parts, and with the essential Hakomi skill of jumping out of the system (JOOTS).
To register, please click on the following link:
https://hakomiinstitute.com/hakomievent/working-with-disavowed-and-undervalued-parts/
Format and Structure:
The workshop will include big group demos and practice time in small groups with skilled, dedicated assistants.
Attendance will be limited to 32 students, to ensure an excellent learning environment and an ideal student-staff ratio.
Working with Disavowed and Undervalued Parts will be offered on Zoom through the international Hakomi Institute's new Continuing Education program.
Working with Pre-Judgment States: An Advanced Hakomi Workshop
October 5-6, 2024
Description:
In this workshop, participants will learn to work with systems of self-judgment in which clients commonly get stuck. We will focus on the following steps in the process:
• Understanding some of the evolutionary psychology underneath self-judgment systems
• Tracking for systems of self-judgment, and contacting both the system as a whole and its key parts
• Framing the process—what is happening internally for a client that leads to a judgment system
• Framing the intervention that will be used, and tracking for consent before starting
• Resourcing the client adequately before starting
• Engaging the intervention: diving into the moments before the judgments start, and noticing, while the client is in a mindful state, what is their actual experience: emotions, impulses, activation level, internal images, etc
• Studying the client’s experience as these elements are witnessed
• Learning about Damasio’s theory of “As If” loops
• Learn skills for moving from “As If” loops to “As Is” experience
• Supporting new transformative experiences that emerge in this process
• Practicing integration skills to help client bring these new possibilities into their life outside the therapy space
Format and Structure:
The workshop will include big group demos and practice time in small groups with skilled, dedicated assistants.
Attendance will be limited to 32 students, to ensure an excellent learning environment and an ideal student-staff ratio.
Working with Pre-Judgment States will be offered on Zoom through the international Hakomi Institute's new Continuing Education program.
Registration is not yet open for this workshop. Please check back again soon!
Hakomi Practice Groups:
-- Monday morning groups, monthly, on-going
-- Monday afternoon groups, monthly, on-going
-- Tuesday evening groups, monthly, on-going
-- Wednesday afternoon groups, monthly, on-going
-- Friday morning groups, monthly, on-going
I offer several Hakomi Practice Groups for graduates of Hakomi trainings and current students. Most of these groups meet once each month for two hours. The groups focus on practicing and building skills from Hakomi and other mindfulness-based therapeutic approaches. The group size is 4-6 students, meeting on Zoom or at my San Anselmo office. Some groups are intermediate level and others are advanced level.
Logistics:
For more information: Please call Shai Lavie at (415) 339-7847 or email me at shailavie@hotmail.com